Now we all know that wedding planning can be stressful and overwhelming. I would love to pretend that planning the best day of your life (which it really is – honestly) is as fun as the day itself but then I would be lying. Even the most zen of people will suffer from anxiety at some point in the build up to their wedding day as there is just so much to think about, and that pressure, in most cases, always tends to fall onto the brides shoulders. I lost many a nights sleep when I was planning my wedding and if I did manage to fall asleep, I would wake in the middle of the night with sheer panic of how much I had left to organise. Sleep deprivation is a killer and can seriously impact the way you cope with situations, not to mention your health and well being.
If you are suffering from wedding stress and it is affecting your sleep then today’s article by The Sleep Advisor is a must read. It covers tips on how to alleviate stress in the build up to your wedding and to prepare for a good nights sleep the night before your wedding.
How to Sleep Better During the Planning Process and the Night Before Your Wedding….
Remember those Christmas Eves when you were a kid? When it felt like you couldn’t sleep all night out of sheer excitement? The prospect of Santa pottering around downstairs, the reindeer on the roof and the presents under the tree was all too much. So Christmas Eve was always a few snatched moments of sleep in between restless, giddy, wide-eyed wakefulness.
Fast-forward a couple of decades and you’re faced with the same levels of excitement. But this time, it’s not just regular ol’ Christmas Day getting you in a tizzy. It’s your Wedding Day. They don’t call it “the big day” for no reason. It’s one of the most important days in your life…and because of that, you can’t sleep.
A few key differences between Christmas Day Child You and Wedding Day Adult You:
- Christmas Day Child You is filled with pure excitement alone; Wedding Day Adult You is consumed with anxieties, fears and plans, too.
- Christmas Day Child You is more than likely only thinking of their own joy; Wedding Day Adult You has errant friends, stubborn family members and random neighbours to consider.
- Christmas Day Child You might be up all night with excitement but will still look rested come morning; Wedding Day Adult You could wake up to dark circles, puffy cheeks and a peaky complexion. On your WEDDING DAY. Eek!
Of course, the night before the Big Day could just be another in a series of sleepless nights. Which won’t help your appearance/state of mind around this time, either!
Getting enough sleep is crucial for a number of reasons. It impacts our health, our relationships and our work. It can make us happier, more productive and more thoughtful people, instead of lethargic and irritable zombies. And when you’ve got a lot on your plate, like planning a wedding, sleep can be the difference between it being a golden year and one of unnecessary stress.
With that in mind, here’s how to sleep better in the run-up to your wedding…
6 months to go:
You still have lots of time. But even still, this can feel like the most hectic, up-in-the-air stage of your wedding planning. Because you may have the venue booked but you haven’t even thought of dresses yet. And you don’t want to face doing up invites. And you can’t figure out what music you want. Or what you’ll serve at the meal. And so on, and so on.
The thing is, this stage can be so overwhelming because it’s hard to get a grasp on every little thing. So don’t try to! Instead, focus on one, achievable thing each week. Mark it in your calendar, for instance “Feb 20th – Feb 27th: Research wedding bands Monday & Tuesday. Arrange in-person meetings for Thursday & Friday. Book by Sunday”.
Ok, it might not be as straightforward as this… but by setting yourself a clear and achievable task each week you can start narrowing down the things that need doing and the whole thing will seem less out of reach.
1 month to go:
Hopefully you’ve been doing this already but if you haven’t… don’t forget to delegate! You’ve chosen your bridesmaids for a reason; to be there as your support system. Use this system to your advantage! Whatever little tasks you have left, like booking transport between venues, or collecting flowers, or organising playlists, or making up party favours…ask your nearest and dearest for help. If you’ve chosen your allies well, they’ll be more than happy to pitch in!
To save you stressing out in your sleep over this, stay organised. Have all these tasks in a list somewhere (even – gasp – a spreadsheet) with names aside to each so you know who’s doing what. Rest assured that everything’s under control and you may be able to control your rest.
1 day to go:
So the stage has been set, the Ts crossed and the loose ends tied. Now all that’s left is to get a good night’s rest, so you can wake up looking fabulous!
Easier said than done, of course. But there are a few handy techniques you can try to get a better sleep, even at this nerve-wracking/exciting stage.
I’ve noted down a few tips here but there are loads more to explore via the Sleep advisor.
First of all, make sure to get to bed early. It might be tempting to stay up toasting your final night of freedom with your bridesmaids, or to rewrite your speech for the thousandth time, or even to try on your dress (DON’T do that one; think of the spill potential!)… but resist this temptation, if you can. Instead, have a glass of wine at dinner, no more, and excuse yourself to get settled early.
Turn your phone off so you can’t be disturbed (and so the screen doesn’t keep your mind on overdrive) and leave instructions with your hotel to give you a wakeup call.
Have a long bath, apply a simple face mask of honey, natural yoghurt and oats (ie, nothing that’ll be too harsh on your skin) and place wet teabags on your eyelids to combat dark circles. After 15 minutes or so of this homemade facial, cleanse your skin with warm water and apply a generous helping of moisturiser to keep the skin hydrated as you snooze.
If you’re still feeling wired, try writing a letter to yourself or a diary entry to get those thoughts out of your head and onto paper. Or listen to a guided meditation exercise; “progressive relaxation” ones are particularly useful.
If you’ve followed the advice for the months leading up to the wedding, the night before should be less stressful anyway. And by taking these extra measures, you can ensure maximum relaxation…so you’ll wake up a rested, rejuvenated and beautiful bride come morning!
About The Sleep Advisor
The Sleep Advisor is an online resource for everything you could possibly need to know about getting a good nights sleep. From product reviews to relaxation techniques, their aim is to provide honest and in depth advice on banishing insomnia and maximizing your sleep so you are the best you can possibly be.
Amen to that!
Happy Friday Sleeping Beauties,