We did it, you guys! We made it to another Friday, and goodness, has autumn arrived or has autumn arrived?! I swear at the start of the week the leaves were still green?! Hear me right though, we are fully embracing this beautiful new season and, true to form it’s got us feeling especially reflective on life, on how we consider things, what we’re grateful for and those things that we want to embrace a little more in the coming season.
So with all that in mind, today’s 10 Ways will see us looking to nature for (amongst other things!) our home decor and our therapy, as well as exploring some of our favourite warming foods (think super cosy soup and our favourite herbal tea), we’re also talking about the value of like-minded friends, a seasonal street-style favourite and, let’s kick things off with a concept from far off shore that might make you see life a little differently…
One: Wabi Sabi
No, not an insanely hot green paste you cautiously add to your sushi, in traditional Japanese aesthetics, Wabi–sabi (侘寂) is a world view centred on the acceptance of transience and imperfection. The aesthetic is sometimes described as one of beauty that is ‘imperfect, impermanent, and incomplete’.
‘Wabi is the quality of a rustic, yet refined, solitary beauty.
Sabi is that trait, be it the green corrosion of bronze, or the pattern of moss and lichen on wood and stone, that comes with weathering and age.’ – ‘Reflections of the Spirit: Japanese Gardens in America’, Maggie Oster
Essentially guys, we reckon it’s the new Hygge. Not only can this beautiful concept apply to your home decor style, but (as with Hygge, of course) your lifestyle also. It’s about perceptions; choosing to wait and look a little longer to see the beauty in something you might’ve initially dismissed. It’s the low-key, hidden beauty of both aesthetics, moments and life in general. As this great article describes it:
‘Wabi-sabi is everything that today’s sleek, mass-produced, technology-saturated culture isn’t. It’s flea markets, not shopping malls; aged wood, not swank floor coverings; one single morning glory, not a dozen red roses.
Wabi-sabi understands the tender, raw beauty of a grey December landscape, and the aching elegance of an abandoned building or shed. It celebrates cracks and crevices and rot and all the other marks that time and weather and use leave behind […]
It takes a mind quiet enough to appreciate muted beauty, courage not to fear bareness, willingness to accept things as they are—without ornamentation. It depends on the ability to slow down, to shift the balance from doing to being, to appreciating rather than perfecting.’
However you embrace this concept, it’s utterly beautiful, and encourages the kind of grounding our society is in great need of.
Two: Time for Tea
My goodness, I’m obsessed. With benefits spanning the spectrum from improving digestive health, to burning fat, to helping breastfeeding mums increase their milk supply (with many other benefits in between!) this tea is a little bit of magic.
It’s also very worth noting, ladies, that fennel’s volatile oils have mild estrogen-like qualities, so they are used extensively in Chinese medicine to treat hormonal problems. Fennel can help boost libido, relieve PMS symptoms, menstrual cramps or menopausal symptoms.
Worth knowing, right!? And it’s so freakin’ tasty too!
Three: Now Listening
Something about this time of year makes us crave acoustic guitar. The soft, muffled tones of José Gonzalez’s guitar, the duvet-like comfort of an artist like Iron & Wine, or the luscious harmonies of the Fleet Foxes.
A cosy hug in the beautifully plucked strings of a guitar, a perfectly imperfect vocal and we are set for the Autumn.
Four: Cuddle Coats
I think it’s safe to say that jacket season is just around the corner, you guys, and our undoubted favourite for this year is what we’ve affectionately coined the ‘cuddle coat’.
(Search terms may also include ‘borg’ ‘pile’ ‘teddy jacket’ or ‘faux shearling’… But we like cuddle coat best!)
Just. So. Damn. Cosy.
You’re welcome, teddies!
Five: Foraged Finishes
In keeping with the aforementioned Wabi Sabi concept, we have been enjoying looking to nature for our home decor this past few weeks, to bring a little of that organically formed, oh-so grounding beauty inside our homes.
Whether it’s framing that gorgeously toned fallen leaf you happened upon, creating an autumnal wreath of foraged goods, or using twigs to adorn you dining area, or fill a vase… There’s beauty in bringing the outside in.
I mean, anyone would think I was into the idea of being out in nature at the moment or something?! Well, it’s true! This season brings it out in me like no other. I think it’s the impermanence of Autumn, blink and you miss it, and what a crying shame that would be.
While the concept of Earthing (also known as ‘Grounding’) is new to us, it’s something that here at FBrides we can totally relate to and get on board with: the benefits of walking barefoot outside (we love a barefoot bride!).
Purported to help relieve chronic pain and inflammation, improve sleep quality, increase energy levels, support adrenal health, normalise blood pressure, lower stress and promote calmness…
Some pretty big claims, huh?! It’s all based around the concept of adding electrons to the body to quell a surplus of free radicals. This article by Wellness Mama gives a great (relatively unbiased!) summary, or check out ‘Earthing’ by Stephen Sinatra.
Seven: Now Following
This Aussie babe. She has been filling my feed with the most beautiful bounty of rainbows and inspiring words for a couple of months now.
Meet @tessguinery, ‘a firm believer that there is beauty in just about anything’ (there’s a theme emerging here, hey?!) she’s a graphic designer and visual communicator on sabbatical, and my gosh is she creating some stunning work while on her break.
Inspiring art. Inspiring words. Inspiring life.
I’d give her a follow if I were you!
Eight: Seasonal Sales
In light of the deeper chats we’ve been having today, this one might seem a bit #basic, but hey! Real life and all that: summer sales, babes. Summer sales.
Whether it’s those Mahabis slippers you’ve been eyeing up ready for Autumn, or you’re on the hunt for some extra cool home bits from Urban Outiftters, or even some last minute summer buys for an upcoming holiday…
Get checking out your favourite online haunts, because there are some incredible deals to be had right now!
Nine: Like Minds
We’ve been talking and thinking a lot recently about the importance and value of friendships with like-minded individuals. That could be your partner, your girl/boyfriends or your family… But there’s so much to be gained from authentic connections, and what’s more, taking the time to invest in those relationships.
When was the last time you had a really great conversation with someone? You might’ve laughed for hours, or discussed a current issue in depth, or maybe you took time to explore a concept that fascinates you both… No small talk, no distractions, just focused, judgement-free conversation that leaves you with that wonderful afterglow that comes only from genuine connection with another human.
It’s magic guys, and I’m privileged to say I have amazing people in my life with whom I connect with in this way. If you don’t have those kind of friendships, we’d implore you to go out there and find them. If you’re passionate about running, join a club. If you want to explore attachment parenting search facebook for local groups. If you want to develop a skill alongside others who’re equally interested, join a class.
Find your people, your tribe. It’ll enrich your life greatly.
Ten: Soup for Supper
Because who doesn’t want soup once the nights start to draw in and the cold air sets in?!
Aka, give us all the seasonal squashes and root vegetables. YUM.
I hope today’s post has inspired you to give yourself permission to slow down, look inwards and let go of perfection. Wabi Sabi is most definitely our new mantra for this season, and while it might take a little work and practice to relax into, we have no doubt that the rewards of seeing beauty and the attitude of gratitude towards that beauty will be great.
Have a gorgeous weekend, and we’ll see you on the flip side!
Peace + Love